When Prince Charming Became a Nightmare

Alright I will admit it…I am a sucker for sappy chick flicks. Yes I love those predictable, cheesy movies where everything ends happily and just how you expected it. In fact I am watching “The Wedding Planner” as I write this. All of my teenage years I dreamed of a whirlwind romance where the guy would sweep me off my feet and everything would be perfect….until something horribly dramatic causes some conflict and things go awry. But do not worry, the guy will come back fighting for the girl and win her over again. This was my idea of a perfect love story. All of my past relationships I tried to fit into this mold. If something was not going perfectly I would wait around hoping the guy would suddenly realize I was the only one for him. This never did happen and my heart would be broken just one more time.

Now the irony in all of this is I just happened to marry a very unromantic man. HA! But truthfully I am OK with this, because now the idea of Prince Charming and a whirlwind romance have become my nightmare. Let me explain. My previous idea of a perfect relationship would now be horribly exhausting. So much conflict, so much drama, and so not reality. The ups and downs and the emotions involved with these whirlwind romances would be more trouble than they’re worth. Who wants to live in a revolving state of happy, sad, angry, thrilled, etc.? I sure don’t. I will admit occasional moments of romance are much needed, but I do not need or even want a lifetime of nonstop romance. The confusion of not knowing where the relationship is going. NO THANKS! To be perfectly honest I love that I am done searching for Mr. Right (even when Mr. Right is lacking in the romance field). The real thing is so much better than the scripted version. So for all of the other chick flick lovers out there, learn to love the real thing. There is nothing wrong with liking romantic movies, but there is a problem when you start expecting your marriage to be like those movies. Asking your man to be like the guys in these romantic movies is asking  A LOT! Let’s be real. The guys in these movies DO NOT EXIST in real life. They are actors who are really good at repeating lines that were wrote for them. Unless you want to give your husband a script to live by, I suggest we start accepting that our husbands may not be typical prince charmings. But maybe, just maybe they are prince charming in their own ways.