Are You Working as a Team?

        Current research is showing that my generation (the Millennials) are becoming more and more independent and individualistic. If this is really the case I am afraid ladies and gents we have a huge hurdle to overcome in our marriages. Marriage is one hundred percent a team effort.  Yes, we can still keep our individual identities and quirky personality traits. In fact it is those individual traits that make your marriage unique. But when it comes to the success of our marriage we have to become one. There really is no room in marriage for each person to be individualistic. When a husband and wife begin to fight for different goals and accomplishments, a rift can develop between the two of them. They are no longer moving and working together, which is the original intent of marriage. God did not create the institution of marriage so the husband and wife can go their separate ways. He created marriage so two people can come together and become one. 

          Have you ever watched a volleyball game where the team is obviously on the same page? Each individual player is working together, making calls, and watching out for the other players on the court. These are my favorite games to watch. Now have you ever watched a volleyball game where the players were not working together? The game is actually quite difficult to watch. There are a lot of players running into each other and a lot of failed attempts at winning a game. The same is true in marriage. When we aren't working together, we are preventing ourselves from fulfilling our potential as husband and wife.  God uses marriage as an example of His love and image of the Church. When a husband and a wife are working together, completely in sync with each other, they are representing to the world what the Kingdom of God is really like. Now for me that is a great and awesome responsibility to undertake. I would hate for my husband and I to miss out on this opportunity, because we are not working as a team.

What about you? Are you and your spouse working as a team?

What will you have to do to overcome the hurdle of individualism in your marriage?