A very popular book in the marriage field is Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs.
In his book, Emerson explains that woman need to feel loved and men need to
feel respect. This basic principal is even found in one of the most quoted
“marriage” verses from Scripture, Ephesians 5:33.
“However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves
himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
And yet, even though the idea of love and
respect is written very clearly in Scripture, how often do we, as husbands and
wives, forget to follow this basic principal?
I have had many conversations with married
women and I have found one thing that seems to be prevalent in these
conversations; we don’t show much respect for our husbands when talking to
other females. We find it easy to complain about what our husbands don’t do and
how they frustrate us. My personal favorite is when we refer to our husbands as
if they were pets. “You would not believe what I finally got my husband to do.
It took me a few years, but he is finally picking up his dirty socks from
around the house.” Do we consider our husbands to be animals that need to be
trained? In reality I do not think we truly feel this way about our husbands,
but in conversation that is how we come across. How would your husband feel if
he heard you talking about him this way? I highly doubt he would feel like you
respected him at all. Showing respect for your husband when he is in the room
is important, but as wives we need to be showing respect for our husbands even
when they are not around. And let’s be honest we wouldn’t like it if our
husbands were complaining about us to their friends, would we?
Questions:
Being honest with yourself, how do you talk
about your husband among your friends?
Do you have a great level of respect for
your husband at all times? Or is this an area of your relationship that needs
to be worked on?
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